It was mentioned in the New York Times and the Houston Chronicle a story out of London reporting that a major clothing retailer had withdrawn a children's bathing suit line. The reason? The swimwear line was promoting a bikini for 7 year olds with a padded bra. The retail store acted immediately after the article was published calling the bikini the “paedo” (pedophile) bikini. That sounds reasonable to me because I cannot imagine any other population appreciating a stuffed bikini top for a 7 year old. Nor can I imagine any reason you should ever stuff any bikini top for any age child. They are children; they are not supposed to have big breasts. I am wondering what the clothing industry who designed this swim suit were thinking. Perhaps it will help if I clarify where the average girl of 7 years is emotionally, so they can understand how messed up their thinking was.

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You have been in a relationship for six to nine months and you are starting to see the little signs that this may not be Mr. Right. You don't want to face the signs because you really like this guy. You already practiced using his last name and you are thinking of who your bridesmaids will be. Hold on…you better slow down. These “little signs” you are seeing may actually be giant red flags waving. If any of these flags are waving for you, it is time to investigate and don't make any plans to walk down that isle just yet. This Mr. Right could be Mr. Wrong if you are married to him.

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As a psychotherapist I treat many kinds of people who have suffered from abuse. The worst of all abuse is sexual abuse. It is a terrible crime and has serious consequences. It causes depression, anxiety, a loss of self esteem and usually scars the girl or woman for the rest of her life. Men and boys can be victims of sexual abuse also but in the majority of cases it is about men having power and control over girls or women. It isn't about sex but they use sex as a means of hurting a girl as it is the most intimate and cruel way to hurt someone and make them fearful. Due to the nature of sexual assault the victim usually feels alone, worthless, guilty and scared.

Unfortunately this leads to many cases never being reported (especially if a family member is the perpetrator). It is very important that moms talk to their daughters about sexual assault. Mom's should help their daughters understand that their body is their own and no one is allowed to touch your private parts without your permission. Go over this with your daughter when she is very young. Have her verbalize it. Are your parents allowed to touch your private parts without your consent? "NO". Is Grandma? "NO" Is Grandpa? "NO". The list should go on and on so your child understands clearly that her body is her own.

As your daughter gets older continue an open dialogue with her in regards to date rape, date rape drugs, and boundaries with dating. If she knows she can come to you she will talk to you about what she has heard from her friends and issues she worries about with a boyfriend. Teach her that "No" means "NO" and she has a right to say it at any time.

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You are about to leave the nest. A great adventure, and you will finally have your own place. You can hang pictures of anything anywhere you want. No one will see the magazines under your bed unless you share them. You can listen to any music you want, and everyone will most likely love it! Nobody is nagging you to eat healthy, or worrying if your clothes are ironed and put away. You can take a shower or you don’t have to. You can come in at 1 a.m. Who cares? This will be fantastic!!!

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