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Is a Scarcity Mindset Ruining Your Relationship?



The mindset inherited from our parents wields a significant influence on how we navigate life and form connections with others. If you grew up in a financially challenged family, where money was a constant concern, or witnessed your parents scrimping and saving to make ends meet, you might have developed an exaggerated perspective on the importance of money and the need to cling to every hard-earned dollar. This outlook can extend to your relationships. Perhaps your parents frequently quarreled, or one of them acted out, yet instead of seeking help or parting ways, they chose to remain together. This could have exposed you to the notion of settling for someone out of fear that they represent the best you can get, or that it's better to be with someone, anyone, rather than nobody. It's essential to recognize that we don't necessarily outgrow the patterns we observe at home. While it's prudent not to quit a job without a new one lined up, this same approach can prove destructive in relationships.


The scarcity mindset detrimentally impacts relationships in three significant ways. First, it fosters a fear of losing your partner and a belief that you won't find anyone better, trapping you in relationships that don't serve your best interests. Consequently, you shy away from necessary risks and advocating for your needs. Second, it may make you appear overly clingy as you tightly grip onto your partner, becoming excessively dependent on them. Your constant need for texts, connection, and attention can exhaust your partner, making them feel suffocated by the incessant contact. Third, it can lead to suspicion and jealousy, causing you to snoop and search for reasons not to trust your partner, even in the absence of evidence. Many individuals who operate from a scarcity mindset suffer from low self-esteem and self-confidence, undervaluing themselves and finding it difficult to believe that someone could love them for being their authentic selves.


If you were raised in an environment where scarcity mindset was prevalent or if you developed it on your own due to challenging circumstances, it's crucial to understand the roots of this mindset before embarking on the journey to heal it. When we comprehend the sources of our fears, we can take steps to overcome or minimize them by aligning our actions with greater confidence and reducing our apprehension of taking necessary risks.


  1. Strive for balance in your relationships by cultivating other interests in your life. Recognize that no single person can fulfill all your needs, so diversify your life experiences. Dedicate time to nurturing meaningful relationships, engage in activities that ignite your passion, volunteer for causes you care about, and pursue interests beyond your romantic relationship. Finding purpose outside of your relationship will help alleviate the fear of losing your partner. By enriching your life with diverse experiences and connections, you'll be less fixated on your partner's choices.

  2. Invest in boosting your self-confidence. Challenge yourself to take small risks, gradually diminishing your fear and boosting your confidence. The scarcity mindset urges us to maintain the status quo, avoid causing waves, and refrain from rocking the boat. However, there are instances where shaking things up is necessary. Injustices can occur, and without a voice to speak out, you may find yourself swept along with circumstances that clash with your values. Start by practicing saying "no." Stand in front of a mirror and articulate "no" aloud at home until you become comfortable with it. Mastering the art of saying "no" sets you on a healthy path toward establishing strong boundaries and gaining the confidence to move on from relationships or situations that aren't in your best interest.

  3. Consider investing in therapy. Therapy is an educational journey that enhances self-awareness and personal growth. As you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, you become better equipped to advocate for your needs and values. Therapy is not about fixing you but rather about expanding your capacity to comprehend and forgive yourself for past regrets or choices that may impede your progress in the present.


The scarcity mindset erodes relationships by impeding their growth and development. When one partner is consumed by the fear of losing the other, authenticity and honesty take a back seat, both of which are essential for a relationship's vitality. Growing up with the belief that love, opportunities, and blessings are in limited supply may compel you to clutch onto everything you receive. However, love thrives on giving, letting go, and trusting. While you can change your mindset, you cannot alter the fundamental requirements for a healthy relationship to flourish. - Mary Jo Rapini


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